From Chapter Five, Why You Don't Have to Be Sure You Have the Right Motivations: Or, How Love Seeks the Good.
I learned about this from a student who stayed after class one day, early in the semester, to get my advice about whether to drop my course. She was in a quandary because she was worried that her motivations were wrong. [...] Was it all about grades? Was she avoiding a good course just because of a selfish fear that it might hurt her grade point average?
What made it all the more complicated for her is that she really needed to drop the course in order to graduate on time, which provided the perfect excuse for her to chicken out of it. [...] So now she really had a problem: it looked like reality was reinforcing her bad motivations!
Wouldn't it be nice, I wondered, if this poor student could just make her decision based on reality instead of her motivations? It took me a while, asking questions and listening, before it dawned on me that this is exactly what she needed to do.
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