From Chapter Five, Why You Don't Have to Be Sure You Have the Right Motivations: Or, How Love Seeks the Good.
It's perverse to be motivated by the desire to be unselfish: it's one of the most self-centered motivations in the world. It's all about proving to ourselves what good Christians we are, which, if you think about it, is a pretty obnoxious motivation. [...]
Do you see the trap here? There is nothing more self-centered than the project of being unselfish -- it's all about what kind of self you want to be. So people who are driven by the need to have the right motivations, such as unselfishness, are inevitably stuck with the wrong motivations -- selfish motivations that other people rightly find obnoxious. Being driven by the motivation to be unselfish traps you in a life that's all about yourself.
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